Archive for Gay Marriage

Why we need the protections of marriage

Posted in General with tags , , on Jun 09 2012 by Cynical Queer

I’m going to depart from my normal petty rants and talk about something truly horrible that represents the exact reason we need marriage protections.

Last night it came to my attention that the long time partner of one of my former co-workers back in North Carolina passed away from lung cancer earlier this week.  This couple had been together for over 20-years and W (not the former US President) had been taking care of J for the past year while he fought the cancer.

First I’d like to say that I am very sympathetic to W in this time of personal crisis.  I lost my own father to lung cancer in April 2011.  It is a horrible, brutal disease that eats away at a body in combination with putting the person who has it and their caregivers through emotional hell.  I don’t wish this disease on anyone, and my heart goes out to everyone who has had to deal with this horrible situation.

Unfortunately J is gone and W is left to live the rest of his life without him.  W is a strong person, and I know he’s going to come out on the other side of this a bit bruised emotionally but otherwise he’ll be very strong.  Still, here are a few of the things that W has to look forward to because of the religious bigots in North Carolina, and their enactment of scripture into state law and the NC constitution:

  • W took time off of work to care for his partner at great personal expense because he was not allowed family leave by either the federal FMLA or NC State Law.
  • W was the sole income earner during the illness when he was able to work.
  • W and J had sizable assets that according to the recently passed Amendment One cannot be passed down to W solely and directly because any contract that gives the appearance of gay marriage in the State of North Carolina is not recognized as legitimate, regardless of the facts surrounding the issue.
  • W has no say in the disposition of remains or worldly possessions, even more shaky after Amendment One.
  • W will likely lose a huge amount of his net worth because of lack of that simple piece of paper known as a marriage license that is given to the special class of people known as heterosexuals.
  • W is ineligible for survivors benefits from either the federal or state governments because of DOMA and Amendment One
  • W will likely have to sell his home to finalize the estate, even if he wants to remain in it, because he was not allowed to marry the man he loved even though they were together for over 20-years.
  •  W is subject to J’s family coming in and poking and prodding through is life in ways that no heterosexual couple would ever be able to imagine simply because they have the protections afforded to them by the state that W does not.

There are many more things I could include but I’m not going to, because quite frankly this is enough to make me angry.  These people that tell us we can’t have meaningful and significant relationships have no clue what they are talking about.  When they tell people like W, J, and me that we’re not good enough, we don’t deserve the same things they do, and what we have should be enough, I simply tell them – look at W&J and then be ashamed of yourselves.

W & J are the shining example of how we gay people are capable of doing just as well the heterosexual monopoly when it comes to the stewardship of marriage.  Unfortunately there are still too many people in this country that want to turn a huge work of fiction into the basis for all our laws.

To them, I say look at W & J and the stability, love, companionship, and sacrifice each made for their enduring relationship and remember that when you pointed your finger at them and told them how horrible they were for wanting what you have, that they were evil, and that there was no way they could ever be a good example of stability and love, that four of your fingers are pointing back to yourself.

Shame on those of you who do this.  You keep telling us we’re going to Hell for who we love but as far as I’m concerned you’re all on the express train.

I’m off to write W a condolence card.


Gay Marriage = Polygamy?

Posted in General with tags , , on Feb 28 2011 by Cynical Queer

Gregory Kane, a writer for that conservative shill newspaper called the Washington Examiner, has written an article titled, Next up for Maryland legalization — polygamy, which theorizes that by making gay marriage legal that the next group demanding their rights would be the polygamists.

I find that this argument is without merit.  After all, if gay marriage is the slippery slope to polygamy, then why did the Mormons provide massive financing and signature gathering efforts in support of California’s proposition 8?

Assuming this logic is correct, and gay marriage is the actual door to polygamy, the Mormons should have been heavily financing the anti-prop 8 side so they could legally live their lives as their scriptures tell them to, instead of actively working to prevent gay marriage, since it seems our interests are linked.

Maybe I should donate to the polygamist cause?  Since I’m now infected with the logic of the article, it seems that allowing polygamy would shorten the wait for enactment of gay marriage in Utah.

“If that is what the voters wanted…”

Posted in General with tags , , , on Aug 06 2010 by Cynical Queer

“…then that is what should stand and a judge shouldn’t be able to overturn it.”  This is in reference to the recent US District Court decision overturning California’s Proposition 8.

Was this said by a conservative religious white man?


A lower middle class black woman?


I guess this woman has never heard of Brown vs. the Board of Education, Loving vs. Virginia, or the 14th amendment (which the two court case decisions mentioned were based on), among many examples of things that gave her and her class of people civil rights equal to the rest of the citizenry of the US.

I seem to remember that Loving vs. Virginia came about because a state (Virginia) purposely put in place a law that said certain classes of people could not inter-marry with other classes.  Brown vs. the Board of Education came about because the Topeka, KS public schools decided that separate schools (institutions) were equal because they gave the “same” education, which sounds like a similar argument used by those who argue that civil unions are enough for gay people and that marriage should be reserved for the heterosexual portion of the population.

Regarding the black woman above…  I guess once her group got their civil rights, the door closed and us uppity faggots now need to shut the fu*k up and sit in the back of the bus.

Well lady, this uppity faggot isn’t going to sit in the back of the bus.

Protect the Sanctity of Marriage

Posted in General with tags , on Oct 16 2009 by Cynical Queer

I encourage all my friends to support the sanctity of marriage.  If you live in California, VOTE!

Yes, I know it’s satire.

Visit to Shallowland

Posted in General with tags , , , , on Jun 23 2009 by Cynical Queer
The window on the back reads, "Just another family without equal rights..." A statement about gay marriage in California.

The window on the back reads, "Just another family without equal rights..." A statement about gay marriage in California.

The past couple of days I’ve been in Los Angeles visiting a friend.  I decided to snap a couple of photos along the way.  The first was taken of an SUV as I drove over the section of Interstate 5 known as the Grapevine.  This is the mountainous stretch of I-5 in Southern California where it travels from the San Joaquin valley over the mountains into the LA basin.  Unfortunately you can’t see what I really took the photo of, but there is writing on the back window.  The car belonged to a couple of lesbians and their kid.

I dislike the man but respect the office he held.

I dislike the man but respect the office he held.

While in the area I also managed to make my first visit to a Presidential library.  If you can’t figure out which one, scroll your mouse over the photo and read the bar at the bottom of your browser.  TQE often calls this President, “President ‘ketchup is a vegetable’.”

You’ve already lost…

Posted in General with tags , , on Apr 24 2009 by Cynical Queer

…because my generation doesn’t care.  Apparently this was said by the daughter of the leader of the Iowa state senate.

That should have the anti-gay marriage conservatives quaking in their boots.  To which I say, GOOD.